Fear Of Criticism

Think for a moment how silly it is to live in fear of criticism. If you’re doing what you know to be right, what possible reason could you have to fear the criticism of others?

Are you concerned that the comments and opinions of others will somehow damage your self-esteem or self-image? Are you afraid of speaking your mind or taking action because you might get your feelings hurt?

 If you really want to improve your self-esteem, stop allowing other people to be responsible for it. Instead, create something of value. Make a positive difference. Pats on the back are nice, but in the end the thing that will truly make you feel good about yourself is to accomplish something worthwhile.

Find valuable feedback in the criticism of others. Realize that it can’t hurt you, that it actually can help. Go forward with the confidence of knowing that you’re truly making a difference, and you will indeed.

Those who fear critism, fear growth. We often don’t see the areas in our life where we are not keeping up, or we are lazy and dont want to change.¬†Criticism from others, criticism from someone who has your best interests at heart that is, is very valuable in removing the blinders that we often wear.

Reaching For Perfection

The way to achieve excellence and perfection is through experience. And experience is filled with mistakes. If it were not, we would not learn very much from it.

It is admirable to aspire for perfection, but foolish indeed to expect that it will come quickly or without mistakes. It certainly pays to expect the best of yourself. It also pays to be realistic. And patient.

Perfection in any endeavor is an aiming point, not a starting point. Let the desire for it push you, but don’t let the absence of it stop you. If you’re ever going to get anything done, you must start somewhere. More specifically, you must start where you are.

Even in our world of instant fortunes, instant communication and instant gratification, it is still true that anything of true and lasting value takes time and effort. Aim for perfection, and follow the less-than-perfect road that will get you there.

Discouragement

Are you discouraged? If you’ve invested enough effort and energy to get to the point where you’re discouraged, you’re well on your way to success. Discouragement is a certain waystation on the road to any worthwhile achievement.

If you know enough to be discouraged, and if you care enough to be discouraged, then you’ve made considerable progress. Learn what the discouragement has to teach you and then continue moving forward. It may seem as though you’ll never make it, but in reality you already are. It would be a shame to be stopped by mere discouragement. It is there to temper and harden you, not to stop you.

Be discouraged for a little while. Reflect on your discouragement and you’ll discover that it is a result of your commitment. You’ve already invested your time, your efforts, your life. Soon you’ll reap the full reward of that investment. Feel the discouragement and let it spur you on.

Practice

Whatever you practice, you will become skilled at doing. Winning athletes practice day after day, month after month, to hone their skills. So do the best musicians, actors, salespeople, airline pilots, preachers, photographers, designers — the list goes on and on.

What do you practice every day? Do you practice positive, success-oriented skills and actions? Or do you practice such skills as making excuses, getting angry, complaining, assigning blame, and procrastinating.

Remember, the more you practice, the more skilled you become. Every moment, you increase your experience in some area. The more you practice anything, the more it becomes a part of you. So be aware of what you practice each day, each moment. Make sure that what you practice, is what you want to become.

Success Is Tedious

Success is often tedious. When we see success in others, it looks exciting and fun. We see someone who is successful in business living in a magnificent house, driving a shiny new car and taking exotic vacations. We see a successful athlete being cheered by the crowd after a winning performance on the playing field. We usually see only the results of success in others.

What we often fail to see and appreciate is how they got there. The person with a successful business has spent many long, boring hours, working late into the night on tasks that no one would consider fun or exciting. The winning athlete has spent day after day on the practice field and in the weight room, laboriously training mind and body.

Those who understand, appreciate and accept that the road to achievement can often be tiresome, those who are willing to do whatever it takes, no matter if it is often tedious and boring, are the ones who will get the reward they seek.

Recipe For Greatness

Take something ordinary, add some focus, commitment and effort, and you have greatness. Greatness arises out of the common and the ordinary. The raw material of greatness is nothing special. A magnificent mansion is made out of ordinary wood, bricks and nails. A literary masterpiece is printed on ordinary paper. A beautiful symphony is performed with ordinary musical instruments.

Greatness depends not on what we have to work with, but on what we do with it. Greatness is achieved not because of what we have, but as a result of what we do.

Though greatness by definition is rare, it is within the reach of anyone. Because the greatest greatness comes from common, ordinary beginnings. Whoever you are, wherever you are, whatever you have to work with, greatness is always waiting for you to make it happen.

Keep Going

On the other side of the challenge there is a great reward. Keep going.

When you’ve made the effort and cannot yet see the result, keep going. The very next step could be the one that brings you across the finish line.

When you become weary, remind yourself why you started in the first place. Connect with your true purpose, and feel the energy begin to flow through you again.

Smile and laugh and have a good time on the journey. Be kind and considerate, thoughtful and helpful, and your load will feel lighter, your steps will come more quickly.

As long as you keep going, every inch of progress will make you stronger. Every moment will bring you closer to the goal.

Consider what a joy and a privilege it is to be able to make a difference. Feel that joy, keep going, and make your world brighter with each step you take.

Comfortable Doubts

Have your doubts become too comfortable? It’s easier to doubt than it is to do. When you doubt that you can accomplish something, the doubt gives you a nice, comfortable place to hide, a reason for not making the effort.

Yet if you keep piling up one doubt on top of another, soon there’s no room left for your dreams, your goals, your ambitions. When you seek refuge in the comfort of your doubts, you close yourself off from all the positive possibilities in your life. After a while even the comfort fades, as regret sets in — regret for opportunities missed that will never come again.

If you fail to prove your doubts wrong, they will eventually prove themselves right. Don’t allow that to happen. Get up, get going and make those doubts look foolish. As soon as you start to take action, the doubts begin to fade. The longer you remain committed to your goals, the weaker your doubts become.

Rather than seeking comfort in your doubts, build confidence in your actions.

The Richness Of Life

In the end, it requires just as much effort to live poorly as it does to live richly. And filling your life with richness is a whole lot more fun. As long as you’re going to put in the time and effort to go through the day, doesn’t it make sense to get the very most you can from it?

Most of your perceived limitations are not really limitations at all. They’re simply boundaries that you’ve set for yourself. Have you ever wondered what’s outside those boundaries? Perhaps today would be a good day to find out.

Your expectations do a good job of keeping you in line. What you get from life is just about exactly what you expect. So here’s a powerful suggestion — start expecting more.

You are filled with possibilities and you live in a world full of opportunities. Resolve right now to make the most of it all. You are worth it, you can do it, and you’ll be so glad you did.

Ups And Downs

For every disappointment you’re experiencing there’s a step you can take right now that will begin to move you away from that disappointment. For every weakness or limitation there’s a step you can take right now that will make you stronger.

The negative things often are better at capturing your attention, yet there are just as many positive possibilities which can capture your imagination and inspire you to move ahead.

Each time a disappointment comes your way, each time you encounter a discouraging situation, challenge yourself to find something positive and compelling to offset it. The world is full of ups and downs. The quality of your life depends not on how many ups or downs come your way, but rather on where you choose to direct your focus.

A Larger Perspective

One of the most positive and effective ways to transcend your difficulties is by expanding your perspective. When you look at a bigger picture, just the change in viewpoint alone will suddenly make the problems smaller.

Does it make sense to spend all your energy fighting battles that don’t really matter? Those who can see the bigger picture are able to focus on achieving bigger, more positive results.

Is something holding you down? Back away from it. Frame it within a larger perspective and you’ll create more room for yourself to get around it. Are you crawling along the rocky ground, agonizing over every pebble? Or are you flying through the air, enjoying the view from 30,000 feet? The difference is one of perspective. Make yours big enough, and you’ll move swiftly forward.